Officially, I’ve been blogging for 1 year but I’ll be the first to admit that I have not been a very consistent blogger. I could probably come up with two handfuls (or more) worth of excuses for my lack of blogging but I’m not going to. I’ve learned a lot about myself in the last year and one of the biggest things I have learned is that I can’t be perfect and I can’t do everything all the time.
So, I’m going to try again.
I’m pretty pumped, next week I am going on tour! I’m going on tours with my employer as part of the Women in Agriculture Women’s Seminar and will be sitting on a panel of other women bloggers. I am not a very experienced blogger compared to the others but I’m pumped that they will help rejuvenate my enthusiasm for blogging!
Top 6 ways I balance my non-farm job and home life:
1. Admit that I can’t do it all and I won’t be perfect; I hold very high standards for myself and have learned in the past year that I can’t do it all myself and its okay to make mistakes. This hasn’t been easy for me and I still have a long way to go.
2. Enlist the help of my husband. Like I said in #1: I can’t do it all, so I won’t. When my husband and I first go married my husband and I had a conversation about house chores and I laid it out. I work full-time, he works full-time, that means we are both tired when we get home from work when there is still dinner to make, dishes and clothes to be washed, and all the household cleaning to do. We split the chores and during spring planting and fall harvest (extra hours on the farm for my husband) I pick up more of the chores around home.
3. Flexibility! I like things planned out but have come to realize that I have to be flexible. You never know what is going to happen at the farm. The only thing I can expect is that everyday at the farm will be different and isn’t a 7:00 AM to 5:00 PM job.
4. Communication is key; communication between my husband and I, between his parents and us, etc. There are a lot of things that happen everyday; some of it important some of it inessential. For us it is important that my husband call me when he leaves the farm, its a 30 minute drive and it allows me time to prepare supper and have something ready/close to ready when he gets home. One piece of advice my mother-in-law gave me before we were married: Always have the table set, even if supper isn’t ready. That way they don’t know the difference of supper being 10 minutes or 40 minutes; they at least know you are working on it.
5. Alone time. We don’t have children yet but its still important for us to have time just the two of us that we focus on us. Lately that has been Church Night/Date Night on Wednesday’s and we have really been enjoying it! Supper out together, sometimes nice and sometimes just a quick Culver’s stop, and then off to church where we can focus on God and our relationship with him in our marriage. Alone time also means some intimacy, a lot of times relationships drift apart because you don’t focus on your significant other or you get in such a routine that you fail to interact as a couple rather then housemates.
6. Be slow to anger and quick to apologize (and it never hurts to have something to apologize with, kisses or food work well!)
Leave a comment on what works for you!